I am a mother who is currently mothering my son and daughter in law... in the hospital as they await the birth of their first child, (and my first grand-daughter) at age 34 weeks .
I just tucked my (grown) son in with warm blankets on the bedside cot, so that he can (hopefully) catch some sleep. I brought her fresh berries this morning, from their home where I spent the night with their sweet pets. Now she is reading a book and resting comfortably.
It's been a long 32 hours since her water broke...neither has had more than a couple hours sleep here and there since then. Actually seeing the face of their first child is still a ways a way... but so eagerly anticipated by all of us!
I feel privileged to be here. Her parents and my husband and I all live out of state. I just happened to be here for the event. It is early, happening on the morning of her baby shower day! It caught us by surprise- but I know all will be well.
Memories of my sons births come flooding back at me. Memories also of their baby and childhoods. Now they will know those joys... and the rigors that go along with them. My babies, though grown into amazing, strong and loving men, will always be my babies. I love them all so much...
This is a sweet, liminal space, this space of transition...
My son is almost 3, and now that he is in preschool I have time to contemplate desires for the next phase of my life. I’m grappling right now with a wave of- and I wish there was a more positive word for this- identity crisis. Though it’s come with a revisit if some postpartum health challenges, in general it’s a good, albeit uncharted, place to be. As a person that has historically had high standards for myself, I’m trying to integrate more self love into my life- remembering to pat myself on the back every day and take a minute to appreciate how far I’ve come since he was born. It’s a PRACTICE. I see you too, Asia, and how far you’ve come already! Thank you for all that you do for your daughter and the wider world.
Mama to a days-away-from-her-18th-birthday daughter named Roen James. Then my four boys Jude Leeland (16), Wells Bascomb (14), Abel River (11) and little Finch Harbor (4).
It reminds me about a situatiin that happened more than 10 years ago when I was the mother of my little baby girl not sleeping so well...I was told "small baby small problems - big baby big problems"....
.... I was baffled. I did not know what to make out of it.....I felt it was a little arrogant not helping me so much .... for sure not kind to me, or my doubts.
I do understand now a little better what that person was trying to tell me but I still do feel that this is not appropriate to any moment a mother goes through...
All situations - whether you are just starting the journey in "motherhood" or whether you have a teenage girl of 15,5 (like me) all moments have their beauty have their challenges and have their lessons/learnings.... Oh so much learnings....Smaller and bigger... 🌀
I am 36 year old woman who is considering motherhood. Because of my age, I am struggling with the pressure to decide soon if this is a path that I want to take. The truth is- I don't know. I feel that my life is beautiful with or without children. Part of me wants to become a mom, to birth a person into this world. Part of me does not, wanting to focus on my creative endeavors, travelling, homesteading, etc.
I am working to learn about the raw experience of motherhood from women I admire, including you, to help me with this decision. Thank you for sharing your journey.
I’m a mom to a 22 year old and a 2 week old! The wildest part is that they have the same birthday. Born on July 22, 22 years apart.
Whoa! That is amazing!!!! I imagine that must feel like such a big wild journey to be both at the end and the beginning at the same time <3
How cool!
I am a mother who is currently mothering my son and daughter in law... in the hospital as they await the birth of their first child, (and my first grand-daughter) at age 34 weeks .
I just tucked my (grown) son in with warm blankets on the bedside cot, so that he can (hopefully) catch some sleep. I brought her fresh berries this morning, from their home where I spent the night with their sweet pets. Now she is reading a book and resting comfortably.
It's been a long 32 hours since her water broke...neither has had more than a couple hours sleep here and there since then. Actually seeing the face of their first child is still a ways a way... but so eagerly anticipated by all of us!
I feel privileged to be here. Her parents and my husband and I all live out of state. I just happened to be here for the event. It is early, happening on the morning of her baby shower day! It caught us by surprise- but I know all will be well.
Memories of my sons births come flooding back at me. Memories also of their baby and childhoods. Now they will know those joys... and the rigors that go along with them. My babies, though grown into amazing, strong and loving men, will always be my babies. I love them all so much...
This is a sweet, liminal space, this space of transition...
I am a mama of an almost 2 year old and expecting my second child.
Congratulations on 2 months here! I find it so hard to commit to anything outside parenting so this is a huge achievement in my books
Same Polina! Thank you for seeing me here. And congratulations on your second :-)
Congrats on two months! What a beautiful community you're weaving here. Also, sending love with the sleep regressions, they're a doozy!
greetings, i am mothership to a 5mos old aqua baby girl & our sag puppy of 7mos and pregnant with another pisces little pea at 9 weeks!
Celebrating your two months here! So beautiful to be nurturing your creativity alongside your little one xxx
My son is almost 3, and now that he is in preschool I have time to contemplate desires for the next phase of my life. I’m grappling right now with a wave of- and I wish there was a more positive word for this- identity crisis. Though it’s come with a revisit if some postpartum health challenges, in general it’s a good, albeit uncharted, place to be. As a person that has historically had high standards for myself, I’m trying to integrate more self love into my life- remembering to pat myself on the back every day and take a minute to appreciate how far I’ve come since he was born. It’s a PRACTICE. I see you too, Asia, and how far you’ve come already! Thank you for all that you do for your daughter and the wider world.
Mama to a days-away-from-her-18th-birthday daughter named Roen James. Then my four boys Jude Leeland (16), Wells Bascomb (14), Abel River (11) and little Finch Harbor (4).
Thank you Asia for asking us where we are at ....
It reminds me about a situatiin that happened more than 10 years ago when I was the mother of my little baby girl not sleeping so well...I was told "small baby small problems - big baby big problems"....
.... I was baffled. I did not know what to make out of it.....I felt it was a little arrogant not helping me so much .... for sure not kind to me, or my doubts.
I do understand now a little better what that person was trying to tell me but I still do feel that this is not appropriate to any moment a mother goes through...
All situations - whether you are just starting the journey in "motherhood" or whether you have a teenage girl of 15,5 (like me) all moments have their beauty have their challenges and have their lessons/learnings.... Oh so much learnings....Smaller and bigger... 🌀
I have written something about that not so long ago in my own substack - called "medecine of the soul" - if ever you were interested : https://medecineofthesoul.substack.com/p/my-child-my-healer 🌷
Sending love, Sage 🍃
I am 36 year old woman who is considering motherhood. Because of my age, I am struggling with the pressure to decide soon if this is a path that I want to take. The truth is- I don't know. I feel that my life is beautiful with or without children. Part of me wants to become a mom, to birth a person into this world. Part of me does not, wanting to focus on my creative endeavors, travelling, homesteading, etc.
I am working to learn about the raw experience of motherhood from women I admire, including you, to help me with this decision. Thank you for sharing your journey.
kind ask: what are all the ways of mothering/ stewarding yourself & those in your life now?
I have 2 beautiful suns- 10 months and almost 3.