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Mar 5Liked by Asia Suler

It really is the small moments that we take for ourselves that make all the difference in motherhood - for me, it's taking time to sit in the quiet with a hot cup of tea once everyone is in bed. I drink tea through the day (British) but somehow that first one after bedtime really puts me back together after a long day.

Can I ask though... How did you discover that magic spot on the floor? Did it look like a good shape for what you needed, and so you tried it, or was it a happy accident? I'm so intrigued!

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Oh, the solace of a cup of tea. I felt this deeply. And honestly I found the spot through sheer exhaustion! It's the only spot in our tiny bathroom where I can actually lay down. So I did one day while she was bathing and pop! It was a completely happy accident.

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Oh I do this too when my boy is in the bath, I take a moment to adjust my neck and attempt to release the tension of the day… you write so beautifully and powerfully of all the small moments of motherhood, thank you

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Love thinking about the two of us, on either side of the pond, laying on the floors of our two bathrooms, finding moments. So glad to be connected here <3

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Like the movements of the plants. Slow, subtle....toward water or sun or minerals....barely noticeable and making all the difference 💚

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Yes! Love this

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Wish I would have recognized and appreciated the “small adjustments” earlier on. Am learning now. Thank you.

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Ain't that the truth. Since change also happens in increments and not one big bang.

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Mar 3Liked by Asia Suler

Thank you so much for sharing your writing Asia! I look forward to reading these every time I see Mothering Depth pop in my inbox!

I am smiling so big writing this as I literally just posted a question in your BSJ course and feel this partly answers my question as it so resonates with my journey as mother.

And this funniest part of all of this is I’m a chiropractor 🤣

You cannot make up these magical moments 💫 Sending you much love 💚

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Oh yes… an accumulative effect of all the tiny micro moments. Sometimes I think they are more powerful than a macro ‘adjustment’ because we weave in more of them throughout everyday moments. This is one of my greatest gifts of Motherhood. Not saying that I don’t lap up an hour long yoga practice or a full massage or solo walk… but I also see the beauty in the tiny moments of doing something just for me, and they feed me deeply. Thank you Asia always x

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Absolutely agree Lauren. The series of micro-moments shifting us on the deepest level. XO

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This is such a beautiful account of early motherhood. I have zero experience of this! And yet I feel moved by your description. Credit to you and your talent as a writer. There's something so strong about that small adjustment and your acceptance of the limits being a mom puts on time. So glad I subscribed to your newsletter! Your writing is fantastic. I never know if I'm subscribing to a famous person and maybe you are one. If you're not, I believe you could be! This is some of the best writing I have read on substack.

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This is so deeply kind and generous of you Heather! Thank you. I am taking your words into my heart today.

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❤️ Like the life lessons I’ve learned in the intuitive painting process- all I need to know is the next brush stroke…what color and where on the paper.

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